I Vote You Out and That's It A common lament of middle aged housewives and men of a certain age is that they feel too trapped at home with their children, pets and in-laws. The idea of going to the casino and sitting at the slot machine for a couple of hours, or even an entire evening, for that matter, sounds great. It isn't a surprise that casinos are now offering slots by appointment only for those middle aged housewives and men of a certain age who don't want to go to the casino at least once a week, but that means they'll have to go to an amusement park or some similar place for their entertainment. So there! What happens when your kids and your spouse finally leave for college? Well, what usually happens is that the couple starts fighting and fighting over finances. The same thing happens when a middle aged couple has a child and suddenly they find themselves responsible for not just a new baby, but a middle aged baby-man/woman who is trying to find his/her place in the world. Both couples argue and fight about money. My point here is that while some families are working hard to keep the family happy and making it work, there are lots of other families out there who don't have this strong relationship. For them, it's time to end the marriage. This can be done legally, or illegally. Either way, the marriage has ended, but usually the couple is still married. For this reason, the husband or wife who decides to divorce will want to ensure that all the proper divorce papers have been filed and filed on time. This is often difficult for many people to do, especially for those who work. My point is that for those without the proper filing of divorce papers, it will be impossible to file a case of adultery, as this adultery often involves others, who are not necessarily included in the divorce, and the divorce isn't finished until those divorce papers have been filed. In other words, you have to live in the same home, be able to be contacted by e-mail and live in the same state for a period of time before you can file for divorce. For this reason, many people choose to end their marriage without filing a divorce, but that means that adultery is an option, especially if you can afford to pay for a lawyer to help you file this, or another case. This is because it's difficult to prove that adultery occurred if you are not filing for divorce. As soon as adultery is proven, your lawyer will petition the court for a divorce and at this point the man and wife will actually divorce. Sometimes people do end their marriage without ever filing for divorce and later file a case of adultery against the other spouse. A friend of mine who happened to be married and divorced once told me about a case where she worked with someone who was married, but wanted to leave him and begin dating another man. The man was cheating on her with a younger woman while she was pregnant with his child and had no idea. Eventually she found out about it and filed a case of adultery, asking for a divorce. To this day, they are not officially divorced but they are living separate lives and are married to other people. If a man wants to leave his wife and live the lifestyle he prefers, he's going to have to pay the price. And we know what the price for adultery is. If you don't know what it is, it's pretty tough to get through life without paying it. Once the husband realizes the wife has filed for divorce and the fact that he's going to have to pay her off if he wants to go forward with his life, he might change his mind. To the wife, if she thinks that the husband can continue his lifestyle with the right woman, she might want to choose another lifestyle or a married lover. If the wife finds out that the husband is cheating and there's no way out for him other than to file for divorce, he can simply not file for divorce, and that's what he'll do. It's really a simple thing to do, but if a woman wants to leave her husband and find another man, she should simply file for an annulment because the marriage is never valid, and the man can be punished for adultery, too. But she has to be willing to pay the price, because life has many choices and the road is long. For those who want to stay married and are living in a state where adultery does not apply (for whatever reason), cheating will most likely occur. If you have the power to control your husband, by asking him to stay home while you play, you can ensure he will always remain faithful, but if you don't and allow him to leave the house without your supervision, you're going to have to decide to file for divorce in order to have full access to the man's income and assets and his lifestyle. For some couples, this would be unthinkable, but many men want freedom in a marriage. I feel strongly about this topic, because I know how tough it is to be a woman, married to a man, who wants a normal, healthy lifestyle but has to keep one foot out of her husband's door because his wife refuses to allow him to take the step forward and begin a new life. If your husband is refusing to grow up and you're his wife, there are times when you have no choice but to file for divorce. Otherwise, you might not have the ability to file for divorce until you run out of money and lose your house and your job. If you're living in a state where adultery is not legal, cheating will occur and cheating is expensive. What does cheating have to do with a good marriage? Nothing, but you should realize that for the guy who cheats, it's about his desire for a strong woman who will control him and keep him from acting on his natural instincts. As we see this, women who file for divorce because of adultery should be punished for this adultery, which will result in them being denied alimony, which is in effect a form of punishment by the court and society. A man can get away with it because the whole system is already built that way and women who file for divorce for this reason and the reason of cheating will be punished unfairly. For those who decide that adultery is the way to go, they will be the most powerful among us when it comes to marriage. By cheating they can remain in power and will have the power to get revenge for their infidelity by punishing their wife and family if she tries to put them through hell. It will take strong women to resist this type of cheating, because it's a sad thing to have to think of the woman as a victim and to not understand what she is willing to sacrifice in order to be with you. The problem is that men and women cannot just go along with each other and be in a relationship, which is why women find it difficult to maintain relationships and stay in a marriage without some kind of form of punishment. If you have something to offer, if you want it, the guy will have the ability to make you his and if you agree to get a divorce, you are agreeing to get divorced. There's no room for negotiation, but a woman who filed for divorce and won't let the man file for divorce with his mistress can definitely end up in the same boat as the woman in front of the judge who was being kept in a bad marriage. Men don't realize that they get what they want from life when it comes to divorces, but for the woman, it's not always easy. If you have ever been the woman who filed for divorce but the judge did not want to hear it, you have no idea of the impact it has on your life and the impact it has on your man. He's going to cheat and he's going to be a man who believes he's entitled. In other words, for the woman, the battle between men and women is just beginning and the war is about to begin. I remember something that happened to me once while I was working at a court house. The judge had a problem with me because I would never bend. One day, as we sat at lunch, he told me that I needed to learn a few things about how the world works. I can tell you one thing, I don't remember him giving me anything that would have changed the way I think. I already knew what he meant, but he didn't know that. The problem with many men is that they cannot get anything they want out of life. What do I mean by that? When a man finds a woman who is going to make him happy, he goes to work to make her happy as well, but sometimes the marriage doesn't work out, or the wife leaves him and there are plenty of reasons. No matter what he does, if the woman gets a divorce, he ends up paying a huge price. He's being punished for something that he cannot change. On this planet, there are people who want a very different lifestyle than you or me and they are looking for this lifestyle, and these people are not going to be as nice as we might be to them. The world is a large place and there are a lot of people living on this planet, and most of us don't even realize that the problems that are occurring are really occurring in our backyard and it has nothing to do with us at all. Many people want what you have, and you want what they have, but everyone doesn't want